Because I haven't complained enough lately...
Let me just tell you one little annoying pet peeve. As part of my job I am often writing legal documents that must identify the children involved. Our standard language is something like...
There were X children born or adopted of the marriage, namely...
Simple, to the point. Right? But here is where I get pissy (at least internally). Almost every single one of my clients who does NOT have adopted children requests that I remove the "or adopted" from the document. Absolutely none of the adoptive parents has requested that I remove the "born or" from the document. The non adoptive parents usually say something like "well why would I put something in there that isn't true?"
Hey Dude (or Dudette) I am not making any kind of comment on how your children came into your family! I am covering all the bases. Why is it so offensive to have the "or adopted" in your document? If it doesn't apply then it doesn't apply.
I know this is my own personal issue but I really feel like people are unknowningly and untentionally saying my family is second class. "Why would I say my family is adopted if they weren't?" Why does it matter? Family is family. Period.
Pissy.
Mean Mama
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I'll remember the next time I get a divorce, I'll make sure to ask you to take out the 'by birth' part. Cause it offends me.
ReplyDeleteWhat about if it is a dog?
Oh now don't be a smart ass. A dog may emotionally be a part of your family but technically it is property. Do not set up a custody schedule for a dog (or a cat or a fish or a crab or a etc). I certainly get to see people at their worst in this job.
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